Thursday, June 3, 2010

Losing Hope

A few weeks ago, I took a day off from my hectic life to spend it with Rachel. In their not so infinite wisdom, the staff all disappeared. At first the visit was going well, typical Asperger's acting out, nothing I couldn't handle.

But then she sexually molested me. I elbowed her off of me, and kept telling her to quit, but she did it repeatedly, and I finally realized, looking into her maniacal smile and eyes that she was getting a kick out of this.

I walked out of the visiting room, told her to stay where she was, and demanded that the receptionist find staff immediately, that it was an emergency with Rachel.

To their credit, someone ran over within minutes, asked me what was wrong, I told them, and they went and tried to talk it through with her. She immediately started upending furniture, screaming, it was horrible. We had an emergency session with my ex called in as well to deal with this and nothing good came of the meeting.

When it was over, I told them I didn't want her at my home for a visit that weekend, and I wouldn't be there to visit her that week. And their response was that I had to not only continue visiting, but continue UNsupervised visiting in order to get her home. I told them thety had to be kidding. That if and when I felt comfortable getting near her again, it was going to be with maximum supervision, and there was no way I was going to be a part of a plan to bring her home until I was assured that this and all other violent, destructive, and sexually exploitive behaviors had STOPPED.

They threatened to put her in foster care if I wouldn't take her home soon. My ex and I told them that we and my current husband had already discussed that, and that if they did not want to keep her, and could not find another placement willing to take her, then that was what we were going to have to do. Neither of us could take her as she is.

They were mortified by us, and we by them.

On top of everything else, I got pregnant by accident last month and miscarried this week.

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